Sadhguru: Why?

Why?

Why are you making it universal?

You are assuming that.

Okay, you are stressed and strained and what?

Sadhguru: ?

Sadhguru: So he has named his wife and children

as stress, .

Wife and two children - stress, .

How's that?

I don't want you to travel on the path of .

Whatever path you're travelling on,

take with you.

It will make the path easy and beautiful.

Whether you go north or south,

if it is dark you take a , ?

Only people take ,

southern people take darkness with you,

is there such a thing?

No.

So you getting married is because of your needs.

You were not born with your wife,

were you?

You were born like this,

a complete human being.

Because you have certain needs

physical, psychological, emotional,

maybe financial

social

that also is there, right?

So, various needs;

marriage is generally supposed to be a package

which deals with all these needs

physical needs,

psychological needs,

emotional needs,

social needs,

sometimes financial needs also.

So it is a comprehensive package,

that if you get married all these problems are solved in one shot.

Sometimes they may refuse to some of your needs,

so you get stressed, strained and .

I want you to understand

you married for your well-being,

not as some somebody's sake.

You married for your needs and your well-being, ?

You better remember that all your life.

You married and tied up the other person with you

because you have needs.

You did not do it for the other person's sake.

?

Let's be straight about this.

?

Yes.

You remember this.

If you remember this, you will live in little , okay?

If not all the five – pancha,

you know the five needs,

at least two you for me,

thank you very much, ?

All the five perfectly, maybe they did not ,

at least two or three they fulfilled, right -

your husband or your wife?

Did they, didn't they?

If they did not anything,

I don't think you would be there by now.

?

If they did not any of your needs,

I do not think you would still be there.

They are fulfilling some needs,

a few things maybe they are not able to fulfill.

So are you.

You are also not able to fulfill

every one of the needs of the other person.

Some you are fulfilling, some you are not.

Isn't it so?

So why did this become stress, ?

way you have made it, it doesn't matter;

if you are willing, in three days' time

it doesn't matter how bad your situation is,

in three days' time you can bring it to a of peace.

If not love,

if not ,

at least you can bring it to a in three days' time

if you are willing, .

?

Hmm?

At least you can shut-up,

simply, whatever happens.

Peace will happen

and maybe they will love it.

So don't walk the path of ,

whatever the path,

you must carry with you.

If you carry with you,

it'll light up your path, whatever path you have chosen.

You have chosen your path out of your needs.

You already done it,

so that's up to you.

Those who have done it,

I would like you to choose your path

not out of your needs,

but of your conscious needs.

So when that stage in your life comes,

it is time to look at your life and see

will today's needs mean something to you after five years or ten years?

Will it be worthwhile to tie up your life

for the simple needs that you have today

or will… are these just passing needs for you?

If it's a very strong need, you must marry.

If it is not a strong need, it's a passing need,

you can work out your needs probably

by just going to a cinema.

Then no need to get married, you know.

Yes,

many people are like this.

Their needs are not very strong.

It's just passing,

but social structure tells them you have to.

Not necessary.

It must be a conscious choice.

way you go, it must be your conscious choice,

not choices

because if you choose

you will always take it out on the people around you

because you feel like a slave

and you don't like it.

So you take it out on them

and they will take it out on you.

So it is not about what you are doing,

it is about how you do it.

What you are doing is according to our requirements,

but how you do it will determine the nature of your life.

Is it an advantage to walk single

rather than walk with people?

Yes,

if you want to walk rapidly.

In Africa there is a saying.

They say,

“If you want to walk quick, walk alone.

If you want to walk long, walk in company.”

If you're making a long distance journey,

it's better to have company.

If you're walking a short distance

and very quick you want to walk,

it's best to go alone, ?

said another thing.

When somebody asked him the same question,

he said,

“It is better to walk alone than to walk with .”

Because by looking at you

he is very clear who else will marry you

so that is Gautama's way of working

So he said

he is always discouraging people to take company

he said

this life is a brief walk

why do you need a company?

When you leave this body it's a long place

there I will be there

this is the offer

But you think life is long,

so maybe you need company.

If you need company you take it,

but how you conduct this company is very important.

If you want to conduct this ,

one of the most important things that you need to do

particularly with your children, you must do this - is

your psychological and your emotional framework

should be around the basic fact of life.

The basic fact of life is that you are .

Your psychological and emotional structure should be formed around your mortality.

This is most important.

If you are constantly aware that this is a brief life,

any moment you will fall dead. Actually

then you would organize your life

and conduct your life in a certain way.

When you know time is , any moment you will be knocked down,

you have no time to get angry with somebody, ?

You have no time to fight with somebody here.

You have no time to sit there depressed for a long period of time

because , , , , it's going away.

Because your psychological structure is organized around your ,

because of that you have lot of time to fight,

to be depressed,

to be frustrated,

to ,

to -

you have lot of time.

So it's very, very important that everybody organizes

their psychological and emotional structure

around the nature of our existence.

After all you are just a carrier

between the last generation and the next generation, isn't it?

Yes?

For a brief time it's in your hands, this world,

afterwards somebody else is going to take it.

You will see taking the from the previous generation

happens in most ugly ways,

handing over the to the next generation happens in horrible ways,

simply because people's mind is structured

around their belief of .

They don't see they are .

If you're constantly aware that you are ,

sense will naturally you.

You will have no time for .

Suppose you are aware that tomorrow you are going to die,

would you spend today fighting with somebody?

Hmm?

Because your time is , isn't it?

And your time is even now,

not after a doctor diagnoses you with some horrible disease.

Even now it's .

Isn't it so?

If you want to explore the possibility of what this is,

the of what this is,

then the time is too rapidly

and time is a extremely relative experience.

If you are and ,

even if you live to be hundred, it's a very brief life,

it's gone in no time.

So in this brief life,

where do you get time

for stress, ?

I don't know where you get time.

This is simply because

you think you are ,

this is the biggest mistake you have done.

It is just a brief journey.

You must conduct it as ,

as as possible.

If you do not know ,

at least you must know this piece of life

before you fall dead.

That must happen to everybody.