Why are you making it universal?
You are assuming that.
Okay, you are stressed and strained and what?
Sadhguru: So he has named his wife and children
as stress, .
Wife and two children - stress, .
I don't want you to travel on the path of .
Whatever path you're travelling on,
take with you.
It will make the path easy and beautiful.
Whether you go north or south,
if it is dark you take a , ?
Only people take ,
southern people take darkness with you,
is there such a thing?
So you getting married is because of your needs.
You were not born with your wife,
You were born like this,
a complete human being.
Because you have certain needs
physical, psychological, emotional,
that also is there, right?
So, various needs;
marriage is generally supposed to be a package
which deals with all these needs
sometimes financial needs also.
So it is a comprehensive package,
that if you get married all these problems are solved in one shot.
Sometimes they may refuse to some of your needs,
so you get stressed, strained and .
I want you to understand
you married for your well-being,
not as some somebody's sake.
You married for your needs and your well-being, ?
You better remember that all your life.
You married and tied up the other person with you
because you have needs.
You did not do it for the other person's sake.
Let's be straight about this.
You remember this.
If you remember this, you will live in little , okay?
If not all the five – pancha,
you know the five needs,
at least two you for me,
thank you very much, ?
All the five perfectly, maybe they did not ,
at least two or three they fulfilled, right -
your husband or your wife?
Did they, didn't they?
If they did not anything,
I don't think you would be there by now.
If they did not any of your needs,
I do not think you would still be there.
They are fulfilling some needs,
a few things maybe they are not able to fulfill.
So are you.
You are also not able to fulfill
every one of the needs of the other person.
Some you are fulfilling, some you are not.
Isn't it so?
So why did this become stress, ?
way you have made it, it doesn't matter;
if you are willing, in three days' time
it doesn't matter how bad your situation is,
in three days' time you can bring it to a of peace.
If not love,
if not ,
at least you can bring it to a in three days' time
if you are willing, .
At least you can shut-up,
simply, whatever happens.
Peace will happen
and maybe they will love it.
So don't walk the path of ,
whatever the path,
you must carry with you.
If you carry with you,
it'll light up your path, whatever path you have chosen.
You have chosen your path out of your needs.
You already done it,
so that's up to you.
Those who have done it,
I would like you to choose your path
not out of your needs,
but of your conscious needs.
So when that stage in your life comes,
it is time to look at your life and see
will today's needs mean something to you after five years or ten years?
Will it be worthwhile to tie up your life
for the simple needs that you have today
or will… are these just passing needs for you?
If it's a very strong need, you must marry.
If it is not a strong need, it's a passing need,
you can work out your needs probably
by just going to a cinema.
Then no need to get married, you know.
many people are like this.
Their needs are not very strong.
It's just passing,
but social structure tells them you have to.
It must be a conscious choice.
way you go, it must be your conscious choice,
because if you choose
you will always take it out on the people around you
because you feel like a slave
and you don't like it.
So you take it out on them
and they will take it out on you.
So it is not about what you are doing,
it is about how you do it.
What you are doing is according to our requirements,
but how you do it will determine the nature of your life.
Is it an advantage to walk single
rather than walk with people?
if you want to walk rapidly.
In Africa there is a saying.
“If you want to walk quick, walk alone.
If you want to walk long, walk in company.”
If you're making a long distance journey,
it's better to have company.
If you're walking a short distance
and very quick you want to walk,
it's best to go alone, ?
said another thing.
When somebody asked him the same question,
“It is better to walk alone than to walk with .”
Because by looking at you
he is very clear who else will marry you
so that is Gautama's way of working
So he said
he is always discouraging people to take company
this life is a brief walk
why do you need a company?
When you leave this body it's a long place
there I will be there
this is the offer
But you think life is long,
so maybe you need company.
If you need company you take it,
but how you conduct this company is very important.
If you want to conduct this ,
one of the most important things that you need to do
particularly with your children, you must do this - is
your psychological and your emotional framework
should be around the basic fact of life.
The basic fact of life is that you are .
Your psychological and emotional structure should be formed around your mortality.
This is most important.
If you are constantly aware that this is a brief life,
any moment you will fall dead. Actually
then you would organize your life
and conduct your life in a certain way.
When you know time is , any moment you will be knocked down,
you have no time to get angry with somebody, ?
You have no time to fight with somebody here.
You have no time to sit there depressed for a long period of time
because , , , , it's going away.
Because your psychological structure is organized around your ,
because of that you have lot of time to fight,
to be depressed,
to be frustrated,
you have lot of time.
So it's very, very important that everybody organizes
their psychological and emotional structure
around the nature of our existence.
After all you are just a carrier
between the last generation and the next generation, isn't it?
For a brief time it's in your hands, this world,
afterwards somebody else is going to take it.
You will see taking the from the previous generation
happens in most ugly ways,
handing over the to the next generation happens in horrible ways,
simply because people's mind is structured
around their belief of .
They don't see they are .
If you're constantly aware that you are ,
sense will naturally you.
You will have no time for .
Suppose you are aware that tomorrow you are going to die,
would you spend today fighting with somebody?
Because your time is , isn't it?
And your time is even now,
not after a doctor diagnoses you with some horrible disease.
Even now it's .
Isn't it so?
If you want to explore the possibility of what this is,
the of what this is,
then the time is too rapidly
and time is a extremely relative experience.
If you are and ,
even if you live to be hundred, it's a very brief life,
it's gone in no time.
So in this brief life,
where do you get time
for stress, ?
I don't know where you get time.
This is simply because
you think you are ,
this is the biggest mistake you have done.
It is just a brief journey.
You must conduct it as ,
as as possible.
If you do not know ,
at least you must know this piece of life
before you fall dead.
That must happen to everybody.